Personal development or how you like:
boils down to something very basic in appearance: And you, how do you love yourself? You like yourself a little, a lot, passionately… Not at all.
To know where you are with your relationship to yourself, it is necessary to be aware of this tendency to depreciate us or on the contrary overestimate us. Indeed, these behaviors generate painful feelings that are repeated in the present as a result of past experiences. This question, which so simple, many people will find it difficult to answer.
When a person engages in a personal development process, he or she needs to strengthen their identity and improve their chances of emotional, professional and family success. They are the result of inferiority or superiority complexes that have been echoing each other for a long time and are linked to education
We are not talking here about ego or disproportionate pride, but about the relationship we have with ourselves. How can we know happiness if we are not at peace with ourselves? How can we be happy if we despise each other?
The fear of not being loved and the lack of self-esteem are the source of several psychological difficulties. Loving each other is one of the key keys to our lives. To do this, let's change our behavior!
Be selfish:
Loving one's person and believing in oneself are two inseparable things. It is almost impossible to love yourself if you do not believe in yourself. If you are not able to treat yourself properly and respectfully, you cannot do the same to others. Take care of yourself at last! Stop sacrificing yourself, make others suffer your complaints and bitterness. So, rather than not thinking about yourself, finally give yourself time and leisure. You will then feel good about yourself and more available to others.
Ask yourself if you like the tasks you have to do and if not how can you reduce the penalty and improve this load?
Treat yourself:
Stop believing that in life everything is just constrained and get rid of a heavy evil being. As of today, give yourself 30 minutes each day to treat yourself and write them down on a notebook. You will be surprised to find that far from taking time away from you, this half hour will have only benefits. It will increase your efficiency in the obligations you have to fulfill and make you more available to others.
List your priorities:
Take stock of three important things in your life: Love and Family Life, Profession, Friendships and Leisure. Do you think they're balanced? If this is not the case, try to identify and analyze the one that is most developed (If you have promoted your professional life, it is because for you this represents an area on or there is less risk of disillusionment, if your love life is the center of your priorities your existence would lose all meaning if your spouse disappears…).
By listing your priorities, you regain control over your life. You no longer become a slave at the expense of another essential point in your life.
These three points are a tripod that in absolute terms must be as important as each other. In the event of a deficiency in one of these three "anchor" points, the existence of the other two allows us to maintain balance. If you are inequality, try to consider how you might develop one of these essential points.
Don't give in order to receive:
Often we give the other one waiting for a return of what we would like him to give us.
Listening to the other person, reassuring him, paying attention to himself and preparing small surprise gifts often leads to disillusionment because we expect the same from this person. Honestly, I must admit that he listens to me less but gives me other things.
So it's time to give ourselves what you expect from others: surprises, attention, a journey… to achieve what I dream of without waiting for it to be offered to me.
Develop self-satisfaction:
It is not a question of being comugs but of being self-satisfied, of successful actions that will prevent us from doubting our abilities. The ideal would be to identify a source of complacency every day. We are always aware of what we should have done and that we have not done, on the other hand, we often forget the small daily challenges we face. Content yourself with little things and little by little, your look at yourself will change!
